Jonathan Bean I have first-hand experience of losing all joy after losing all sleep. It’s possible to get the joy back. Before baby number one, I was a very joyful person. I enjoyed all the little things about my everyday life. Got excited about trying new foods. Tried new sporty activities with enthusiasm. Cherished […]
Self-esteem is an opinion you have about yourself. “High self-esteem” is that you have positive thoughts about yourself. “Low self-esteem” is that you have negative thoughts about yourself. No one has only positive thoughts about themselves.
My son is four. He has a dear friend who is five. They love each other. Playing with his friend is my son’s absolute favorite thing to do. Their relationship is quite intense though. Obviously, due to their ages, their brains aren’t fully developed yet, so impulse control is hard. In addition, they are both quite strong-willed. Don’t cave in easily. Consequently, they often find themselves in intense arguments. At times, the arguments escalate to physical fights.
Too bad, if you are a human, you will feel those feelings as long as you’ll live. No matter what some self-help books claimed. There is a part of our brain which is responsible for the primitive feelings and impulses. It’s unfortunately not possible to turn off that brain part. Most of us have of course been taught the opposite since we were born. We have learned that it’s not okay to cry. It’s not okay to be afraid. We have got a clear message that we must control our emotions.
Because resisting – the opposite of accepting – the pain is judging. And judging is negativity, which causes you unhappiness. Why cause unhappiness? Your life situation is what it is now. Judging does not make a difference in your life situation. Only acting towards change makes a difference.
Do you sometimes sense an unexplainable feeling of incompleteness – feeling of not being whole? In addition to being a conscious feeling, it can be unconscious, writes Eckhart Tolle in his book Power of Now.
How to have a clearer sense of self? By not identifying yourself with your mind, writes Eckhart Tolle in his awesome book Power of Now. Let’s say you discuss with someone. Your opinions differ. Do you get defensive or angry?
The answer is: by not judging and resisting what you have now, and not immersing yourself in negative thoughts about past or future. Most of human pain is unnecessary, self-created pain, writes Eckhart Tolle in his masterpiece book Power of Now.
Peaceful home definately makes it easier to have a peaceful mind. (And vice versa. It’s a vicious circle.) The following pieces of advice for creating a more peaceful home are from world’s best parenting book Peaceful Parent, Happy Kids by Dr. Laura Markham.