What is the Annoying Sense of Incompleteness in You?
Do you sometimes sense an unexplainable feeling of incompleteness – feeling of not being whole? In addition to being a conscious feeling, it can be unconscious, writes Eckhart Tolle in his book Power of Now.
If it (the feeling of incompleteness) is conscious, it manifests as the unsettling and constant feeling of not being worthy or good enough. If it is unconscious, it will only be felt indirectly as an intense craving, wanting and needing
Eckhart Tolle / Power of Now
We try to fill the big hole by possessions, money, success and pleasures. Aim is to feel better about ourselves, and to feel more complete. But even after getting all those things, the hole is still there. Feelings of fulfilment and peace are temporary.
What can fill the hole then?
What can we do to feel complete?
The present is always unpleasant if there are more preferable things waiting around the corner. New pleasure, new excitement, better things. The peace and completeness are distorted by ‘something better’. Your present (i.e. your life) is not wondrous, amazing and incredible, but rather second class to something it will be or could be.
No wonder there is a sense of incompleteness in us.
We can fill the hole by staying in the present. And the method for staying in the present is self-observation.
Back to the Present
Observe your thoughts. See how your mind travels to the future. When that happens, bring your attention gently back to the present moment. Visit the future only when you must for practical reasons.
When you start observing, as a bonus you’ll find the observer, who is you.
Yes, it’s definately difficult. You easily get immersed in fantasies about your future. Then your current life is imperfect again.
But luckily, the second you realize you are not present, you are present.
Tolle, Eckhart: The Power of Now: A Guide to Spiritual Enlightenment. New World Library and Namaste Publishing, 2004.